Who Pays For The Wedding? - The Rules And The Exceptions

Thursday, July 29th, 2010
by Janet Poole

If you should ask your mom or your grandma how wedding expenses were shared in their day, you shall probably be surprised to find out that their families paid for nearly all the proceedings. Did this have anything to do with being a female and member of the weaker sex? Whatever the reason for that, happily for you, if you happen to a bride-to-be, that arrangement is no longer observed today.

Just how precisely did people go about wedding expenses two, maybe three generations ago and for a long time previous to that?

Formerly, the bride’s family took care of wedding expenses at the engagement party, if such a party was celebrated.

On top of this, all the costs incurred by the wedding itself, including; transportation, rentals, musicians and various other professional and religious fees was also charged to the bride’s family.

After that, the expenses for the wedding reception, including the music and entertainment, the food and party favors were all paid for by the bride’s side.

The family of the bride also bought the bridal gown, a pair of wedding gifts for the couple, the bouquets for the bridesmaids and all the flowers needed for dcor. They also paid for photography sessions, the photographs and the refreshments.

The groom’s family took care of their own accommodations and paid for the mock wedding rehearsals. They also gave wedding gifts to the couple and took care of the expenses for the honeymoon.

In modern times, people think more about making wedding expenses convenient for both sides of the union. There is a tendency for apportioning the costs depending on the relative financial standings of the families involved. This usually ends up with all common wedding expenses being halved.

Wedding expenses incurred for guests are shouldered by the family inviting the guest. In this way, the side who invited a greater number of people paid more for the wedding reception meal and favors.

For families who belong to the same income bracket, the above manner of dividing wedding expenses is prevalent. But the idea behind the sharing of marriage costs is not really dividing everything evenly between the two couple’s families, but in contributing to the occasion in proportion to the family’s financial status.

In some cases, the more advantaged side of the union may offer to pay for all of the wedding expenses. Although that may seem to be convenient for the other family, it is generally not wise to accede to that offer. There may be cases when paying for all the costs of the marriage may encourage the wealthier family to try and run the entire show on its own.

For the sake of all relationships that will be involved in the marriage, that situation has to be averted. The family that is less fortunate money-wise should insist on a less expensive wedding that they can easily afford to contribute to. They should also make it a point to give their share of the expenditures, however little that may be.

In such a case, it will be far better for the less well-off side to insist on an inexpensive wedding in which both parties can afford to split the wedding expenses, if not even, at least to some extent.

To start off the relationship between the man and the woman on equal ground will be crucial in encouraging mutual respect for each other and in making sure that their relationship lasts the tests of living life. This may be true for the relationship between the in-laws as well.

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Mother Of The Groom Speeches - Exceptional Hints Toward Funny Wedding Speeches

Thursday, July 29th, 2010
by Megan Sands

One of the really wondrous facets of any wedding festivity is the mother of the groom speech which bring laughters to the hearts of people listening.

When people speak about a wedding, we typically relate this with happiness and jubilations. This is the moment when two souls, first considered as strangers to each other, ultimately decided to be joined for the rest of their lifetimes. The decision really brings together two different families, as well! Presenting a mother of groom wedding speech well-balanced with good humor and meaning is the best way to make the wedding more special.

Review these reminders here to help you write a fascinating mother of groom toast easily:

Tips in Writing Funny Mother of groom wedding speech

There’s a remarkable difference between a humorous mother of the most important man of the event presenting a speech and watching stand-up comedy. The people attending the wedding party will surely notice if too much effort is rendered just to present a hilarious mother of the groom speech. Planning beforehand really helps in making the humorous portions of your speech as natural as achievable.

Hilarity isn’t everything in mother of groom wedding speeches and toasts. No mother of the most important man of the event wishes to be recalled as delivering a humorous speech without content whatsoever. Preparations you provide will reflect to the quantity of humor and meaning of your wedding speech. Whatever it is that you want your son and your future daughter-in-law to hold dear in their marital life, complete it first.

Being called to speak before an audience does not warrant any speaker to be reckless about the sort of humor rendered. As you plan your mother of the groom wedding speech, bear in mind that you don’t want to be thought of as somebody who ridicules or hurt a certain person, group, race, belief or culture.

Your mother of groom wedding speech should have humor so that this gives a smile on the lips of everyone attending the rare celebration. It is not hard to be carried away and brag about the accomplishments of your son and your future daughter-in-law, especially if you are able to tell these accounts in an amusing way. Just be sure to minimize bragging as much as you can.

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Weird Wedding Facts Or Fiction

Thursday, July 29th, 2010
by Aaron Hu

There are 610 words in 36 sentences and 8 paragraphs!

From the weird, strange, and bizarre files (The W Files) locked safely away in our vault in a secured secret facility rumored to be somewhere in the Nevada badlands, I found a file full of strange wedding facts while looking for a half eaten snickers bar I laid down and forgotten. Not only did I manage to sneak the file home for this article, the candy bar was still good, believe it…or not. Before the secret W (for Weddings) police break down my door, I want to let you in on some of these little known facts. These are not the weird wedding favors or unique wedding favors facts that you have heard people whisper about in dark restaurants, huddled in a booth in the back. No, these are the weird events and strange traditions that until now were locked away. Read on and get in on the secrets of Weird Wedding Facts or Fiction. See if you can tell which is fact and which is fiction!

Fact or Fiction You have heard of cradle robbers, those pathetically wealthy, dirty old men, who take brides that are 20 to 50 years younger than they are. Well, guess what. Men are not the only ones who participate in this practice. There is a woman who married a man that was young enough to be her child. Separated by a whopping 19 years, this cradle-robbing temptress shocked everyone who knew her. Right now, you are probably thinking that this is not a big deal. What makes this information news worthy is that Minnie Monro was 102 and her groom was 83, effectively making them the oldest couple to be married, on record, at least.

Fact or Fiction Some guys are really good at making excuses. They will delay the inevitable indefinitely while they either enjoy a freedom or protect a secret. These devious dudes really know how to wrap people around their fingers, and in this case, the third finger of their left hand. Postponing a wedding date for a legitimate reason is fine if it is done well in advance and if you were smart enough to hire flexible caterers, however, this couple, Octavio and Adriana Guillen were engaged for 67 years before they finally tied the knot. They were both 82 years old. As they came out of the church after the ceremony, I asked Octavio why they waited for so long he replied, “We wanted the wedding to be special” Then I asked if it was in fact special and worth the wait, he replied, “Was what worth the wait?” and I said, “Why, the wedding, of course!” Octavio thought for a minute and then shook my hands. “Congratulations!” he said, “It was a great wedding. I don’t know if you know this but, I’m engaged as well.”

Fact or Fiction It is a thrill to watch two people get married. It is astonishing to watch 21,000 couples get married, all at the same time. In the biggest wedding ever on the planet, that we know of anyways, (It is a safe bet.) all of these couples, plus 9,800 more via satellite were hitched and married at the exact same time. What is even more amazing is that of all these couples, 61,600 individuals in all, not a single one developed cold feet and bolted. “It was like a sea of black and white love,” exclaimed one witness, obviously overwhelmed by the occasion. “It is amazing the amount of love in there.”

Would you like to know which of these facts are real and which are fictions? Well, that is why they made Google!

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Have Style And A Unique Flavor With Wholesale Favors

Thursday, July 29th, 2010
by Bryan Favors

Time is ticking, and your wedding is getting close and you are fretting over every single detail. From food and flowers to dresses and favors, so many details and so little time. And the costs…don’t even get me started on the cost of planning a wedding. Everything only seems to add up to big amounts. Make sure that before you start planning a wedding, that you have equally big savings or a trust fund. When you are funding your own wedding, you will want to save every dime you possibly can, and this can start with the wedding favors. Have an unique way of giving gifts that shows love and appreciation and the price will never matter.

The best way to keeping cost down on wedding favors is by keeping them simple. Shower people with love and respect and keep your money in your wallet. A great way to save cost is to buy supplies or items for favors in bulk. You can also find wholesalers who will give you products at a wholesale cost and you will save much more than the retail cost. There are other ways to get discounts as well; all you have to do is buy in bulk. Keep the favor items simple and personalize them later.

A great way to keep cost low on wedding favors is by making them by hand. Getting a loved one involved keeps them excited about your big day, and allows you to learn how to release and enjoy the process. Handmade wedding favors are unique and personalized wedding favors. A common handmade wedding favor is any food item. Cookies, cakes, wines or sweet treats make for great wedding favors. You can buy small bottles of wine in bulk, personalize the bottle and give them as wedding favors. Food favors are a hit among people because everyone loves food and they are not a headache to store and find place for in homes. Another great idea is imprinted glass items.

Candle holders, glasses and vases are a great way to make personalized wedding favors. You can buy the glassware from flea markets at a great cost, and all you have to do is print them with a special message. Whatever talent you have can be put to use in your wedding favors. If you can write well, then compose a poem for your guests, if your talent lies in painting then paint a picture or wall hanging. If it’s crochet, then a nice colorful set of coasters can do the trick. The idea is so start simple and add the personalized touches yourself, not only will it be cheap but will also make your guests feel special.

All you want on your wedding day is for your guests to have fun. Your guests do not need to know how much you have spent on wedding favors, as long as they are not tacky. Keep the wedding favors simple and if you are making them, start well in advance so that you are not rushing through it at the end. It is the thought that counts and your guests know that. Remember to have fun while you personalize wedding favors and have a wedding to remember.

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You Don’t Want To Be Called Bridezilla

Thursday, July 29th, 2010
by Peter Joseph

No woman wants to be known as bridezilla. Just hearing the word conjures up images of a monster with a bouquet, veil and wedding dress. Your wedding is the one day when you want to look like a princess, so this makes it even worse to be tagged with such a dreadful name. In order to make sure that you don’t lose it on your wedding day, here are a few things to keep in mind.

Everyone Should Enjoy Your Wedding

Although it starts with a ceremony full of symbolism and meaning, the reception that follows is really nothing more than one big party. Parties are supposed to be fun. Although you’ve spent months planning this party, and thousands of dollars making sure that everything goes according to plan, when the day finally arrives the running of the party will be completely out of your hands. The time comes when you will need to take a step back and let the professionals do what you’ve hired them to do.

So when the vanilla cake that you ordered turns out to be chocolate when you take the first slice, just take a deep breath because things happen. In many cases, the more work that you’ve put into preparing the reception, the more things there are that can possibly go wrong. But even something as seemingly disastrous as having the wrong flavor cake is not a reason to flee your party. Nor is it a reason to fling cake at anyone except your new husband during the traditional feeding. Although it may not be the cake you ordered, it probably didn’t ruin your wedding or destroy your life. It’s just a cake. So take a slice, or even two and enjoy it.

Nothing Is Ever Perfect

When thinking about remaining calm for your wedding, it is important to consider the idea of perfection. For everyone planning a wedding, the ideal situation is for everything to be perfect. But that’s a lot of pressure to put on any human being, especially a bride. It’s important to remember that although perfection is a goal, it’s rarely attainable. If you plan well and keep track of everything then you can come close to perfection. When the time comes for you to walk down the aisle, simply let it all go, center yourself, relax and enjoy your day.

Don’t Forget to Smile

Think about the last time you had a job interview. You were nervous and dizzy, and felt like you were going to faint. You had to explain why you were leaving your last job while remaining politically correct and speaking positively about your boss, your colleagues, and your working conditions. These are the skills that you will need to use during your reception when your mother-in-law criticizes your hair or the best man starts telling raunchy stories over the microphone. Don’t lose your cool. If you take out your frustration on the guests, you will find yourself branded a bridezilla for the rest of your life.

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Weddings Are Rich In Symbolism

Thursday, July 29th, 2010
by Aaron Hu

There are many words and phrases that are used to describe weddings and wedding traditions. May people use these phrases or follow the traditions without even realizing what they are doing and why they are symbolic. Take for instance those special spring wedding favors or lovely garden wedding favors that you decide to give to your guests. You may have chosen them because you heard you are supposed to thank your guests and because they looked nice in the catalog but did you know that the wedding favor is a tradition that goes back hundreds of years? The couple who decided to get married would garner as much luck for themselves and their marriage as they could. They would pass that luck on to the guest who attended through special wedding favors. The tradition goes that by passing luck to your friends and family, it would come back to you as many times as you gave. Here are more wedding words and phrases that have meaning behind them.

The wedding cake is not just a nice desert to serve to your guests. It is a sign of fertility and the hope that the couple would have many happy children together. When the tradition first started, they would simply eat the cake. Then they started sprinkling it over the brides head as a sign of fertility. Then the tradition grew and stacking the cakes as high as possible became a tradition. If the bride and groom could kiss over the stack of cakes without knocking them down, the bride would be fertile and have healthy and happy children.

The wedding band is thought to be the very first symbolic item of weddings. It dates back further than any other tradition. It was thought then that there was a vein in the third finger that ran directly to the heart. The wedding band symbolized never-ending love of the circle and placing over that vein tied the two hearts together forever.

In 1499, Anne, of Brittany wore a white wedding dress as a symbol of joy. White is symbolic joy although many people believe it to symbolize purity. Blue is the symbolic color of purity. Anne of Brittany made the white wedding dress popular. Unfortunately, her message of joy did not come through.

The Wedding veil has two purposes. The very first purpose was to protect the bride’s identity from the evil spirits the people of those days thought stalked all weddings. They would hide the bride under a veil, which she would also use when she died to hide her identity when she crossed to the next life. The second tradition involved arranged marriages so that the groom, who had never seen his bride, would not back out of the wedding. The father of the bride would lift the veil mere seconds before the marriage would be legal. If the bride were stolen, the veil also kept her identity from would be rescuers.

The sprinkling of rose petals before the bride is to symbolize her walk through life and to wish her happiness as she takes her first steps into her new life.

The groom stands to the right of the bride so that his sword hand would be free should they be attacked by anyone who would want to stop the wedding. Some of these traditions date back to the days when many a bride were stolen rather than wooed.

These are just a few of the phrases, items and words that have a symbolic meaning behind them You can make your wedding rich in symbolic history by researching more of these and have a wonderful wedding and life together.

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A Green Wedding - Conserving Earth’s Resources On Your Wedding Day

Thursday, July 29th, 2010
by Janet Poole

If you are planning to have a green wedding then you have made a good choice for the future of your will-be children. It is the best way to quietly but forcefully tell the world about your hope that your children will grow up in a society that knows the value of the environment and will do its best to protect it. Besides that hint of idealism, a green wedding may be a little easier on the purse.

Part of the concept of ‘green’ is the fact that we have to spend within our means. Overspending is also an abuse of sorts. The only reason no issues have been brought up about it is that the only victim of overspending is our own self. A green wedding will be best done in your own yard on the condition that your front lawn or your back lawn will be big enough to accommodate a few guests

As much as possible the green wedding place itself and the location of the reception should be close to each other. This will minimize the amount of travel that your guests will need to undertake. This goes towards reducing their energy usage.

Encourage your friends to pick up one another on the way to the wedding. This is to minimize the need to use cars to go to the wedding. One reason you might want to give is that your driveway can only fit so many vehicles.

If anyone of your friends lives miles away, inform him of the wedding early on. He might be able to time your wedding with a trip he needs to make in the direction of your place. By doing this, you prevent his needing to create additional carbon footprints by driving all the way from his place just to attend your wedding.

The use of recycled paper for your invitation cards is also recommended for green wedding celebrations. There is recycled paper that is charmingly colored and enhanced with floral inclusions. These are especially appropriate for wedding invitation cards.

You will than have to have the invitations to your green wedding calligraphed by someone with very good penmanship. This is because you might not be able to run the recycled paper through the printer safely. This allows you to avoid using electricity for printing out the invitations and allows you, moreover, to help out a talented person.

A green wedding also implies that you should create your own wedding attire. Fixing up an old but elegant dress with the right accessories and lace should make it good enough to wear as a wedding gown. Simple attire is also a prerequisite of a green celebration, as is the use or organic rather than synthetic materials. If you can’t find anything wearable among your old dresses, you could purchase a second-hand wedding gown. Have it redone and redecorated by a seamstress if you want. After the wedding, donate it to organizations that accept such gifts. Your gown will be useful for another bride in the future.

When your prepare the food for you reception or when you order it from a restaurant, make sure you get only fish, vegetables and fruits. If it is possible, make sure the veggies you get haven’t been nourished by chemicals and pesticides. Along this line, it might be a good idea right now to plant your own vegetable patch in your back yard. Then you can be sure that the vegetables you eat are chemical-free. There are more things you can do to celebrate a green wedding. All of them have to do with respecting the environment and not patronizing products of people who violate the environment or are cruel to their fellow creatures.

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What You Ought To Know About Picking Songs And Music For An Upcoming Wedding

Thursday, July 29th, 2010
by Christina Barrimore

Regardless of the type of wedding, big or small, formal or informal, the selection of music during the ceremony is key in setting the mood of the day. Therefore it is important to choose wisely the selection of music to play at the wedding ceremony as this would set the atmosphere for the rest of the wedding day.

For a wedding ceremony, there are a variety of ways to go about picking songs. You can choose classical, traditional, or contemporary music, depending on your mood.

Nowadays, most couples tend to select songs that are more significant to them. Therefore, remember to keep in mind the audience as you plan for the wedding ceremony.

Choosing a song that everyone knows is also vital. This allows the congregated crowd to join in with the songs and bless the couple, hence creating a unique ambience altogether.

Musical ensembles like string quarters and even chamber music groups are also popular for weddings. Traditional classical pieces like “The Wedding March” is among the well known selection for music played during the wedding ceremony.

Some of the traditional wedding ceremony tunes which are still among the most known include Wagner’s Bridal Chorus, Mendelssohn’s Wedding March, Widor’s Toccata, Bach’s ‘Jesu, Joy of Man’s Desiring’ etc. Couples, however, have preferred to go for contemporary songs because they hold a special significance to them.

It is essential to set out on making provision to hire musicians as soon as the wedding date and location are confirmed. Normally, well known musicians are booked as much as a year in advance.

It would be proper for you to make inquiries first on the kind of music that would be allowed in the place of worship even if guidelines would have been given. You should also meet the musicians and confirm all the details one month before the wedding date.

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Hire A Live Band For An Amazing Wedding Party

Thursday, July 29th, 2010
by Katie Barrett

There is a wedding at your home and you are planning a gala party. You have hired the best of the venues, the best of the caterers as well as a sumptuous menu. You have added themes to the party and have added the necessary dcor. Now the only thing left is arranging the music. Just keep this in mind that with a live band wedding parties can become from simple to extraordinary.

When you go for hiring any live band wedding parties achieve the glam factor. The guests enjoy the music especially when the professional band interacts with the audience and even plays the requests made by them. The party becomes lively and enjoyable. Good music brings forth nostalgia amongst the guests and there is an emotional fever spread through the party.

By getting a professional live band wedding ceremonies become enriched. In wedding ceremonies it is always important to have the tempo to be built up. A professional wedding band will do it perfectly, starting with slow tracks while guests are being introduced and are in a mood of conversation. They would move on to playing love ballads in the special moments of the wedding in order to make the situations touch the hearts. When it is party time, the band would start playing dance numbers and flock the guests to the dancing floor.

By introducing a live band wedding ceremonies become an affair to remember. But again, you should choose the right wedding band and professional one too. Any unprofessional outfit may spell disaster to your carefully planned party. So when you are choosing the band it is needed to check the credibility and experience of the band. You can hire bands through the internet or from the contacts in the Yellow Pages. You can also ask the event management agency to find a wedding band for you.

It is for sure that when you hire a live band wedding parties get spirited but again you need to plan that as well. Sit with the band that you have finalized and brief the play list you have made. Let the band improvise on that and come back to you for the final play list. Check whether the band has ability to play requests outside the play list.

It is true that with a live band wedding parties do turn in to a glamorous affair but again you have to reciprocate the bands needs in advance. You need to check the parking lot of the venue for the band’s instruments to be unloaded and loaded. You have to check the stage facility as well as power supply set up for the musical instruments.

Do check with the venue in advance if it has the facilities needed by the band as well as license to host live bands. The license part is very important and should be checked in advance since if you found out at the last minute that the venue does not have the necessary license to host live bands then all your plans will go down the drain.

With all set and done, you will be able to host a well organized wedding party, free from all hassles. You may be assured that with a professional live band wedding parties like yours will surely receive a star status from the guests.

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Three Big Tips For Making A Wedding Checklist

Thursday, July 29th, 2010
by Niki Johnson

If you tried to find information on wedding checklist on the Internet, you would have found 224,000 answers. This is nothing compared with the number of answers about weddings: 293 million! It seems like the whole world is getting married, or at least involved in the wedding business. And there is no doubt that this is an enormous business.

For many people, organizing a wedding will be the single largest organizational challenge of their lives. This, of course, can also mean a great deal of stress. Much of what is necessary for successfully organizing an event of any sort is a well thought out checklist. Otherwise you could spend much of your time in abject confusion.

Some people are naturally ‘the list’ people, and they make lists for groceries, for daily chores, for family birthdays and everything else. Others go through life trying to cope with forgotten items in grocery stores, or lost documents like passports or birth certificates. Considering the amount of stress an average wedding might create, ‘list people’ would do much better.

A wedding checklist should include all those details that you are particularly interested in, like wedding invitations, venue, dress, food at the party, and all those details you may not have thought about, like music, flowers, clothes for after the wedding, and bridesmaids’ dresses. The list of things to arrange is enormous, but, fortunately, you are not on your own. Look at one of the websites offering advice on the wedding checklists, and find one that is closest to what you need. Going through all the details of an average wedding is a daunting task for one person, so enlist help. Maybe your best friend can help you. Or you could ask some friend that recently got married and still remembers all those things that she forgot and lived to regret.

Your wedding dress is probably very high on your wedding checklist. It takes time to go through all those magazines that boggle the mind with ideas, and then find a tailor who can make something you saw. However, that is indeed an option. Or you can go and visit shops selling ready-made wedding dresses to find the right one. In any case, if you buy your dress early, you have to make sure that you do not gain weight before the big day. This is no small task. You will be under a lot of stress, and people under stress eat, especially sweets.

Don’t forget that you are supposed to enjoy yourself at your own wedding. If you can, let someone else do the wedding checklists and all the organizing. Hiring a wedding planner is not always outrageously expensive, and can allow you to concentrate on things that matter. After all, you want to be beautiful and radiant for all the wedding photos.

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