Compromise is Part of Wedding Planning
As if a prelude to the rest of their lives, couples that plan a wedding together will not see eye to eye on everything. He may want an outdoor family wedding and cook-out party while she may have always dreamed of a church and indoor reception. You may even find situations when the couples don’t agree on anything and this can be a real test of the love that they proclaim for one another. Wedding planning is already a time of stress and hard decisions. Arguing or even settling for something that you are totally against may not be a very healthy thing for a new couple to have to deal with at this delicate stage of their relationship. When this happens, the families of the bride and groom will become stressed as well as they are forced to take sides.
This makes it very important to schedule a family’s luncheon right at the top of your wedding planning checklist so that the two families can get to know each other and start the all-important process of becoming friendly. This initial bond may become extremely important if the couple goes head to head down the line. Keep in mind that this first meeting needs to take place in a neutral location like a restaurant or lounge so that no one feels like a host or a guest and every can meet on a level playing field. It is also very important that either the couple foot the bill in advance or off to the side making sure that everyone stays on the level. Holding this important event during the daytime will also keep alcohol out of the mix, which is almost always a great idea for first impression meetings.
When couples have a disagreement about a big a part of the wedding plans, someone has to give. There has to be a common ground reached which calls for compromise on both sides. Decisions as small as whether to give Asian wedding favors or garden wedding favors can escalate into a full fledged war if no one is willing to budge and couple have to be prepared not to fall into this kind of little trap. Even if one gets their way and the other does not, it is not an I win and you lose situation. Couples who view it as such may be already be on a bad road and might consider seeing a premarital counselor. It is not a win or lose situation at all. It is merely a compromise which is what all good marriages are made of. The ability and willingness to compromise for the person you love and intend to spend the rest of your life with is the glue that holds a marriage together and the sooner a couple gets tha hang of that, the better off they will be.
In a situation where the bride wants a church wedding with a reception and the groom wants a home wedding with a backyard cook-out, go one way or the other and be ready to give on something else or a good compromise with a church wedding and a backyard reception might be just the thing.
When you reach the stage where you are not only willing to make a sacrifice but look forward to giving ground to make your spouse happy, you are moving in a wonderful direction that could take you into the rest of your wedded life with good, optimistic momentum.
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